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“Attracting Girls With Money” Is The XY Problem
Why “Don’t Chase Girls, Chase Money” is a terrible advice
There’s this famous problem that often arises on technical support forums, which I think applies to every aspect of our lives.
This is called the XY Problem.
It refers to a situation where someone has a problem (X) and attempts to solve it by asking about a specific solution (Y), without considering whether Y is the best approach to solving X.
In other words, the person is seeking help for what they believe is the solution to their problem, rather than asking for help in understanding or solving the actual underlying problem.
This can lead to inefficiencies and failures, as the person is looking for advice or suggestions related to Y, even if there might be a better way to address X.
Now, think relationships.
Ever heard of using money to attract partners? That’s like slapping a Y on a deeper X issue tied to relationships, self-esteem, or societal expectations.
It’s like trying to solve the puzzle by just focusing on one piece.
Imagine someone thinking, “If I flash my cash, I’ll find the perfect match!”
